Story title: Three (3) Counsels to Seek to Avoid Domestic Violence – PAINFUL LOVE!
WRITTEN BY:
RUTH CHIDINMA OBUMNEKE
SIMEON OKORE
Edited: Simeon Okore
This is the story of a woman with so much potential, but the wrong partner ruined her life.
I bet you will not forgive yourself if you fail to read this episode. A lot of things to learn from this very story. A mind-blowing article you cannot forget.
Sound!
A baby stomping and crying.
Hi baby, what is the problem? Her Mum asked. Are you hurt or something?
The baby continued crying as her Mum ran upstairs to check on her.
Her Mum had just returned from the market, so she wondered where dad would have left the baby.
Honey! Honey. Where are you? She screams. But unfortunately, Daddy was not home; it was just the baby alone in a four-bedroom duplex.
The baby was napping when her daddy left her to chill out with his friends. She had pooped all over her body, so mummy took her to the bathroom and cleaned her up immediately.
After she had dressed the baby, she fed her and continued searching for Daddy. Daddy’s phone was switched off, so there was no way anyone could reach him.
He left the house, leaving the baby alone without his wife’s concert. His wife was not surprised by his action because she was used to it.
She lived in fear but could not complain because she wanted to keep her home. She never wanted anyone to interfere, so she lived in an abusive marriage for 17 years without complaining.
Jane was married to her husband for 3years without a child before the lord blessed them with a baby girl.
The past three years without a child was the worst moment of her life because her husband would beat and abuse her like a total stranger, calling her all sorts of names.
They never spent a whole month together without engaging in a fight. That’s to tell you how terrible life was for her.
Mr. Francis (her husband) would leave his home after every fight and hang out with friends to have drinks and flirt with other ladies.
Jane never reported her husband to her parent or any authority.
She lost her first pregnancy to domestic violence before she took in again and conceived a baby girl.
Her baby grew up in a violent home where peace and love never lived. She grew up not loving her father because her dad never loved her.
Mr Francis wanted a male child but had a female child instead. So, his hatred for his wife and the baby worsened.
He buys her flowers and some gift items each time he beats her up and asks for forgiveness for his actions.
He kept doing the same thing over and over again till they were seventeen (17) years in marriage. Jane remained dedicated and faithful to keeping her home, hoping the husband would modify his wrong ways.
Angela, their daughter, grew into a teenager loving and supporting just her Mum because her dad never spent time with them and would sometimes hit her Mum in her presence.
Her father’s actions affected her mentally, which led to her poor performance in school, but with the help of her Mum, she was able to pull through. She lived in fear as well due to her father’s attitude.
Angela saw every man as a beast and never wanted to have anything to do with them. She saw every man to be like her heartless father, so she vowed never to get married. Her mother tried to convince her that all men are not the same, but all efforts seem aborted.
One day, Mr. Francis returned home drunk. His wife and baby had gone to bed, so he knocked at the door for some more minutes before his wife came downstairs to open the door, but unknown to her that she was coming to meet death.
Her husband, having waited for a while outside, fled up and hit a wine bottle on her head.
Mrs. Jane passed out immediately. Her husband walked past and went upstairs. A few minutes later, she died while lying in a pool of blood.
Angela woke up at midnight looking for her Mum, searched upstairs but didn’t find her Mum so she rushed downstairs and saw her Mum lying dead on the floor.
Immediately, she screamed and cried out for help. Their neighbors came, rushed her to the Hospital, and the doctor confirmed her dead.
They immediately went to the Police station to make a report. There, Angela had the opportunity to cry out her pains and told the Police all that her Mum went through at the hands of her dad before she died.
I suspect my dad killed my mother, she said.
The Police went home with them to arrest her husband, and after every investigation, he confessed that he had hit his wife with a bottle.
I did hit her with a bottle, but I didn’t know she was going to die. He said, it was not intentional; I was drunk and did not know what I was doing.
The Police arrested him and sent him to death imprisonment.
Angela was sent to her grandparents and, was admitted into a seminary school, where she graduated as a nun.
Dear parents, your role in your family plays out in your children’s lives. Either positive or negative; ensure they live a positive energy so they will not live with regret and pain.
Marriage is meant to be enjoyed, not to be endured. Unfortunately, some are lasting what their mouth can’t say.
Please ensure that before marriage,
You pray. Marry from the body of Christ; that should be someone who understands your values, likes, and dislikes. Who believes in whom, and what do you think?
♠Seek counsel to avoid domestic violence.
✓🥇 of them is misunderstanding! So, to avoid this so-called violence, apply or try to understand your partner! This applies to both men and women (men/woman violence).
✓ 🥈 is Anger, which comes from the misunderstanding. Misunderstanding upon misunderstanding increases anger!
✓ 🥉 is Lack of Self Control, which leads to abuse of any kind, but in this case, talking about domestic violence. Due to the increase in anger, then letting it control you instead of being able to handle it builds up an adverse action in your mind, which results in a reaction (domestic violence).
♦There are consequences; consequences in every action we take in life! The difference between the consequences depends on the kind of action one takes, either good or bad. Reasonable efforts yield good results, which are the consequences (after something is done).
Likewise, the wrong move produces its kind, and that product, which is the outcome, is the consequence.
♦You see, nature has made it simple for natural existence. You must take the right action and expect a proper or good reward. No matter how you twist the scenario, a character cannot be cheated. It has been designed as such.
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Question to consider – Is your marriage preaching positively to the people around you? And will your child desire their marriage to be like yours?
https://www.theglobalmindinitiatives.com/2023/11/10/facts-about-destiny/